“Not one person is the whole answer” by chubbyskinnybrowngirl
April 12, 2015
“Not one person is the whole answer”. Yet another amazing life shifting matter of fact statement, a “Michellenism” if you will. Michellene is full of these. These supposedly simple yet unexpectedly profound ‘isms that knock you on your butt and make you re-evaluate the way you see things.
I’m sure most could agree that we’ve been living in a culture which seems competitive and cut throat by nature – we become conditioned to compete with one another. For as long as I can remember, value has always been put on how I am performing, and really how can you measure my performance? By pitting and comparing my performance against those around me. Receiving stars on the chalkboard for good behaviour, being graded on a curve in University, attempting to out-shine the other candidates at a job interview, participating in contests like “Biggest Loser” to see who loses the most weight…everyone’s competing for that same position, number ONE. And of course, vying for that top position leaves little space for collaboration, support or even desire to see others succeed, because in this number ONE model, those who don’t succeed and reach that top position, seemingly fail. It’s tough to not let this competition mentality engrained in us as early as elementary school, not really infect us as adults.
But what a delightful surprise to meet a community not based on competition at all. And what is the underline notion of which this community is built upon? A handful of souls who believe that “not one person is the whole answer”, in essence then, everyone has something to give and to add to the equation. Imagine the freedom one feels when relieved of the burden of having to be the best, be it all or be the whole answer? Imagine a space where you are valued and celebrated for simply being yourself. Imagine the friendships and relationships that develop when people are allowed to be real and vulnerable because they are finally given permission to take their game faces off. Imagine the authentic love that develops when we stop running ahead….ahead of everyone is apart from everyone…why not choose to be a part of everyone instead?
Community centeredness is the perfect way to expend, preserve and create energy. We collectively multiply the energy field tenfold by individually lending our own unique energies to it. Profoundly, diversity creates the greatest growth. It’s like a garden. A communal garden that we all nurture and care for. We each add to it and share the responsibility; someone buys the seedlings, someone plants, someone waters, someone weeds, someone sprays, someone loves, someone coddles….and before you know it, out blooms this beautiful community that we are all responsible for and a part of. A community where everyone has a place, everyone is valued and everyone belongs because the growth and beauty of the garden is a reflection of the diversity and expertise of everyone who tended to it; the reflection of the whole, is a sum of it’s parts.
At Lahari, they call it their Kula. Kula is a Sanskrit word that means Community. Our Kula is definitely a beautiful community where “not one person is the whole answer”… ever inviting, ever growing, ever changing, ever evolving; ever blooming. <3